In yoga, we take the energy out of the face and into the asana. We take the effort out of pursed lips and tongue and send the breath down into the core and spread the effort out evenly throughout the whole body. That is such a metaphor for continued right placement and right energy for the task at hand.
Ever notice when you are efforting to get a task done, you are wearing your shoulders up to your ears like earrings? biting your lower lip, picking your cuticle skin or having a nervous twitch in your leg? The energy goes everywhere else except for the task in the moment. Hard to be present, hard to concentrate and direct the energy. How to really channel the energy and place precisely without added effort? Not easy. Off the mat, we need to be decisive or direct to have that hard conversation. How can we find some ease and trust in order to do this?
Try the 1:2 ratio breath. Inhale for a count of 4 and exhale for a count of 8. If you don't like counting, just extend the exhalation, which naturally brings the body into "rest and digest." This 1:2 ratio breath increases relaxation and turns on the parasympathetic nervous system. Perhaps this breath might help us take the effort out of our faces, out of lips and tight shoulders and into whatever courageous conversations we need to have.